How to Deal With Someone Who has Blanked You.
So how do you deal with people who blank you?
Being ignored hurts.
Deciding how to react can be difficult especially if you are not bosom pals.
- Try to evaluate the situation and consider the implications if you do confront the person and their reaction. They may be false and give you a half-hearted apology. Try to think back to the last time you spoke to them (which in my case apart from the text was most probably at the beginning of the year for my daughter’s birthday dinner). The situation was strained as I always think there is an ulterior motive to meeting up once a year when you do not bother with that person for the rest of the 364 days. Think of a time perhaps where they have been angry or hostile toward you? Did you say something to offend them? If so, they are probably still stewing over whatever it was set them off in the first place. On the other hand, if you had a great time with them last time, there’s probably a very good reason they have blanked you. They could have been busy and not had the time to reply or simply forgotten. In my case and I have many people that contact me on a daily basis I always find time for them and will not blank them as it does not say much about me if I did. Blanking is simply being rude.
- Ask another person that knows the two of you, why you’re being ignored. In some cases, if you know the person’s friends or relatives you could ask them. If the person ignoring you is a friend or coworker, ask a mutual friend or coworker who may know why you’re being ignored. Perhaps you have upset the person inadvertently and they have decided to just ignore you to avoid escalating any conflict. A third party might be able to assess the situation more objectively and help you figure out why you’re being ignored. In my case I could possibly ask my ex-sister-in-law from my other brother’s marriage as this person does speak to her more often than I do. I personally think Madam has got too big for her boots.
- Confront the Bull by the Horns. Ask the person ignoring you directly why they are behaving this way. Confront the person ignoring you directly face to face and ask them what is upsetting them. If they are true they will give you an honest answer but if they are false they will be cowardly and say there is nothing wrong just to get you off the scent. Confront the person in a private and quiet place away from any distractions or send them an email or letter and calmly ask why they have chosen to ignore you. Express your feelings in a calm and courteous manner. Present evidence that they’ve been ignoring you, such as not returning your calls or emails, or not responding when you speak to them. Listen attentively to their explanation.
Depending on the circumstances and situation it may be easier said than done and may prove to be awkward to tackle. If you are in a workplace and you are being ignored during work time, confront the person or persons individually. Confronting them as a group may cause them to gang up on you. If that does not work then go to your superiors. If however, it is during break times, again you can confront the person or persons one by one but tread with caution. You need to find the instigator and get to the bottom of why this is happening to you.
This is simple advice to be a better person, do no blank people, make time for people and consider people’s feelings.