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Month: October 2022

Social Disconnection a Personal Perspective.

Social Disconnection a Personal Perspective.

I won’t name the person that said to me today, to go find a shrink. This person is one of my close network of connections and I found the comment rude and degrading. According to this individual I obviously, I need to go to the looney bin because I am finding it hard to cope with stress and anxiety.

When I counter reacted by saying I do not want to speak to anyone about my health and much rather prefer self-help therapy, the person said how is that working out for me?

When I said I have a diploma this person said that the diploma obviously was not legit.

PROFESSIONAL-HYPNOTHERAPY-FOR-HOARDING-AND-OCD-DIPLOMA-COURSE

No matter how I try to prove my education it’s as if nothing ever is good enough for this person. I sense this person does not want me to succeed.

I am done with negative people in my life that chose to judge me even though they have not walked in my shoes. As Nikola Tesla once said “Intelligent people tend to have fewer friends than the average person. The smarter you are the more selective you become” Let’s just say I am picky about who I chose to keep company with.

Social disconnection worsens mental health after a loss, grief, or trauma.

This same person has suffered some of the loss I have endured and sitting on their high and mighty throne casting judgment, has not got a clue about my struggles, although they will when my autobiography is published.

I said I have social disconnection issues and this person said so I am angry with the world. On the contrary, I am protecting myself from the world because I have been hurt too many times.

If anything, I have trust issues rather than anger problems.

People that have done you wrong should be called out, that is what the internet is for to name and shame people/companies that have not supplied an adequate service. https://www.trustpilot.com/

Once bitten twice shy so to speak, I am warier of my surroundings. I am safer behind my computer screen than intermingling with the outside world.

Social disconnection is a survival strategy after suffering a bereavement or trauma. However new research shows that the social disconnection caused by concealing feelings of loss can increase psychological distress.

People suffering from grief may find it difficult and may be afraid of opening up to others. Fear of becoming overwhelmed by feelings in front of friends and family can lead the bereaved to avoid social contact altogether.

Research, funded by the NIHR Oxford Health Biomedical Research Centre, showed that being socially disconnected is linked to worse psychological health following a loss.

Dr. Kirsten Smith, the lead author of the paper, added:

‘As a nation, we are currently experiencing unprecedented amounts of loss in the face of the COVID-19 pandemic. The study speaks to the need to reach out to those who may have suffered a bereavement.’

Dr. Smith relates the research findings to the stiff-upper-lip attitude that we often see in western societies and the idea that keeping our grief hidden is part of survival.  In fact, evidence shows that pushing emotions away results in a rebound effect which is more likely to result in problems.

The new research clearly points to the importance of emotional connectedness following a loss. So, what can we do in practical terms to support the bereaved? Dr. Smith suggests staying in regular contact with bereaved family and friends. Dr. Smith urges ‘Let them know you care, keep checking in even if they don’t feel ready to talk yet.  Even though physical distance is currently necessary emotional distance doesn’t need to be.’

When the person is ready to open up, you must be ready to lend an ear or shoulder to cry on. You should never make the person feel as if the issue they are facing is trivial. It may be trivial to you, but it may feel like the world has opened up and wants to swallow them. Do not say that you have done nothing to help yourself, or you need to talk to a shrink.

What is your family for if you cannot turn to them?

Do not say things like chin up, or you will get over it.

Some of the loss I have endured I am still grieving 18 years later, but have found ways of coping by writing my thoughts down. https://disabledentrepreneur.uk/how-to-deal-with-grief/

Dr. Kirsten Smith’s paper was published in Clinical Psychological Science.

Ironically the same person I opened up to about my health in an email I sent promised to respond and never did. I drew the conclusion the person did not want to deal with my trauma and could not support me yet has the audacity to judge me. Perhaps if I talked it through, I may have felt better.

I choose to socially disconnect as I find this is my way of coping.

My self-help therapy is to remove negativity from my life.

#grief #bereavement #loss #trauma #ptsd #stress #anciety #depression #selfhelptherapy

Mentally Disabled Are Being Forced to Work – Instead Start a Business Today!

Mentally Disabled Are Being Forced to Work – Instead Start a Business Today!

The DWP went from an assessment system that somewhat fairly assessed fitness to work using a doctor and other professional consultants, with information taken from relevant sources to support the claim, to a system that mostly uses random questionable people with minimal health qualifications assessing with the aid of a computer-based system deliberately designed to find faults thus making people fit to work. The result: people have committed suicide. Tens of thousands of people have died after being declared ‘fit for work. Hundreds of thousands are being plunged into deeper poverty. Foodbank use has increased by at least 2000% since 2009/10. Many people’s mental and physical health conditions have worsened as a direct result of the tests and the cuts. The DWP are finding any excuse however flimsy to sanction people; limiting or cutting altogether their only source of income for week, months, or even years. People have been admitted to hospitals that are already short-staffed and overrun because people are going hungry and becoming malnourished. People have died of hunger. The sick and disabled are being exploited as cheap labor, and are clearly regarded as ‘2nd class citizens’ by leading figures in the DWP including Secretary of State for Work and Pensions Iain Duncan Smith (IDS) and Lord David Freud. And the DWP is being investigated by the United Nations.

FURTHER READING: Ministers launch back to work drive for people signed off with mental health problems AND https://www.kentlive.news/news/cost-of-living/charities-warn-cruel-dwp-sanctions-7472341

Become Your Own Boss!

The horrifying truth is DWP is going to be forcing people with Mental Health Disabilities back to work. However, there is a solution to every problem.

In the event, this starts to unfold and where you may have to go to endless job interviews, meet with job advisors, etc, you could start your own business, thus eliminating all the stress and anxiety.

You could essentially become your own boss, a sole trader, but I recommend starting small and expanding steadily.

It is not hard to set up a business but you must have a plan and things you may not necessarily know but need to know, you can learn online. Besides we can advise you should you need our support.

What You Will Need!

  1. Decide on what your business is going to be about (everyone has an interest, something they enjoy doing, turn that into a business)
  2. Have a business plan
  3. Profit Loss forecast
  4. Have knowledge of book-keeping
  5. Secure a domain name as you will need a website
  6. Design a Logo
  7. Inform DWP if you are on benefits that your circumstances have changed, you will also have to fill in a Housing Benefit renewal form each year showing copies of all your accounts, including statements, invoices, working out spreadsheets
  8. Inform HMRC that you have started a business. You will have to submit a self-assessment form each year with online accounts to be submitted by the 31st of January of each year, however, to renew tax credits, you must submit your application by 31 July
  9. Apply for working tax credits
  10. Start keeping a record of all your money coming in and out
  11. Keep your personal expenses separate from your business
  12. Get a business bank account
  13. Learn about social media marketing and advertising, content writing, and backlinks
  14. Grow a network of connections, the best place to start is on LinkedIn
  15. Secure a Facebook Page with the same name as your domain name (try to have a keyword in the domain and FB page)
  16. Now get hustling!

Opening A Business Bank Account

Need a helping hand we can build a website/blog for you. We will do search engine optimization, write content, market, and advertise your business across our social media link wheel of websites, blogs, social media pages, and groups as well as our connections.

Everyone has some sort of interest whether it is a sport, health, cooking, or gardening there is a multitude of things you can do, from selling, teaching, or creating.

Imagine not having to answer to anyone or have anyone tell you what to do. Imagine not having to book sick days off. There is absolutely no reason why you cannot work for yourself. You will never have to leave your comfort zone again.

Obviously, self-employment is not for everyone and we all need a guaranteed wage but there are always working tax credits to fall back on:

Working Tax Credits – Average Amount Of Entitlement.

Websites, Blogs, and Domain Names.

If you feel you can build a website yourself check out these guys.

UK Website Designers

Alternatively, you can leave it all for us to do with blogs starting from £35.00 per month and websites from £55.00 We will even give you a head start:

Domain Names

When choosing your brand name domain name consider also buying a secondary domain with an exact match searchable keyword or phrase. You should also try and build an SEO link wheel. https://ukdomainbrokers.ukwebsitedesigners.co.uk/setting-up-wordpress-blog-ultimate-guide/

We will give you a free previously unregistered domain that is not on our books. The domains on www.ukdomainbrokers.com are being brokered on behalf of other domain investors. However, do check out some really useful articles and resources to help you get your business off to a running start.

FINAL NOTE FROM THE EDITOR.

Reading between the lines the UK government is in debt and needs to get the economy rolling again. Where they can sanction (force people to work) they will. They will use every trick in the book to find ways to take from the poor and give to the rich. Remember the government sees disabled people as a burden on their purse strings, so we have to stand our ground and fight for our rights and not give in to intimidation, humiliation, discrimination, and bullying.

#selfemployed #selfemployment #startingabusiness #business #disabled #disabilities #mentalhealth #dwp #disabledentrepreneur

Zena’s Online Journal Health Update, Catching Covid.

Zena’s Online Journal Health Update, Catching Covid.

During my first week back in uni, I catch covid, and worse still my mum has caught it too.

I first noticed the day before I did a test I had a bit of a sore throat but the following day rapidly it turned into a cough.

I thought with all the vaccines I had I would not catch it, obviously, I was wrong because upon doing some research I found that people who have had vaccines aren’t automatically protected from the virus. Vaccines don’t kill the virus or pathogen they target. Rather, vaccines stimulate a person’s immune system to create antibodies. These antibodies are specific against the virus or pathogen for the vaccine and allow the body to fight infection before it takes hold and causes severe disease.

However, some people won’t have strong enough immune such as myself, and won’t respond to the vaccine which may still make people like me who have had their immune suppressed from treatment for Multiple Sclerosis susceptible to developing COVID-19 if exposed to the virus. How a person responds to a vaccine is impacted by a number of host factors, including age, gender, medications, diet, exercise, health, and stress levels.

Yes, you can still get COVID after being vaccinated, but you’re unlikely to get as sick (theconversation.com)

My mum who has not had a single vaccine did not have a sore throat just a fever and a cough and says she is 75% feeling better. They say cats can get covid, hope my cat is a lucky black cat.

I am now feeling better although I still have a cough and feel tired.

Lucky Black Cat

#covid #covid19 #germawareness #spreadinggerms #virus #pathogens #crosscontamination

Impact on your health from someone who has COVID -19.

Impact on your health from someone who has COVID -19.

Patient A – My Daughter who is Fully Vaccinated

Patent B – Myself who has not had one Vaccination

I write two examples of two people living under the same roof with two different immune systems.

Just before Covid became world news I remember the Christmas before going to a restaurant on Christmas Eve with my daughter for a pre-booked Christmas Dinner, feeling like I had been hit by a bus with a very high temperature. I remember not having an appetite and could not wait to come home.

I decided after that not to venture out and not come into contact with anyone with the illness. I did not even go for my vaccinations. Because I suffer from OCD I am more vigilant and am an expert on germ awareness.

Germ awareness and cross-contamination should be taught everywhere and it should be in social media advertising and on television, radio, and in periodicals. It should be emphasized until we are sick of hearing about it. People who deliberately go out spreading their germs should be punished by law.

I obviously dodged a bullet until last week, when before my daughter could even speak I blurted out “Don’t tell me so you have COVID”?

She has had all the latest boosters and was due her fifth until she confirmed the dreaded news. She reckons she caught it from someone in university and by coincidence one of her tutors has just emailed her saying they too have become ill and all seminars will be online.

There is absolutely no excuse the moment you feel you are unwell to do a test and if you have Covid do not come to work or school, university, etc, or any public place for that matter. Do not be selfish. Obviously, people who only think about themselves and do not care about people around them would spread germs.

God will punish people who do not care about others. Do not go out without testing yourself first especially if you start to develop any of the symptoms below or on the NHS site.

Literally the same day she told me I started having the symptoms:

  • High Temperature
  • Feeling Freezing Cold even though I had to put the central heating on full blast.
  • Light headiness
  • Pounding Headache
  • A Cough
  • Feeling lethargic without energy
  • Aching Body
  • Loss of Appetite
  • Loss of Taste
  • Loss of Smell.

Coronavirus (COVID-19) symptoms in adults – NHS (www.nhs.uk)

My daughter who has had nearly all her boosters would be entitled to medication as she would be classed as a priority whilst me being the bad egg would not. I am just riding the tide and believe with willpower I can beat this. In fact, she told me last Tuesday, it is Sunday now, and I am feeling 75% better already.

Mind you I felt like I was hit by a truck and dragged down the road backward. I have little energy and am only now slowly coming back online which is unusual for me and it has only happened twice with the Christmas before the Covid announcement and now.

My daughter’s immune system has been suppressed because she finished her multiple sclerosis treatment earlier this year (www.lemtrada.com) and her body would not be reset until January of next year. Suppressed Immune System: What Is It, Causes, and More | Osmosis I was also concerned for her because she is vulnerable. However, we both experienced the same symptoms and we are both on the road to recovery.

I asked her on a scale of 1 being bad and 10 being good how she was feeling and she said 5 whereas I am feeling 7 or 8.

If any of our symptoms change I will document it here.

Am I angry, of course, I am, I have been off work because of the selfish person that decided to come to a public place to spread germs.

#covid #covid19 #germawareness #bacteria #crosscontamination

Stress & Depression are the root cause of OCD.

Up to ½ million people in the UK have work-related stress often resulting in illness. Up to 5 million people in the UK are ‘very’ or ‘extremely’ stressed through work. ‘Stress, depression, and anxiety are the second most commonly reported work-related illnesses. https://www.stressuless.com/stress.html

Stress & Depression are the root cause of OCD.

Depression may be related to the personal stress developed at home or work. Depression may result after the onset of OCD as in the article below but Depression can also be the result of traumatic events in a person’s life such as Grief which causes a Domino Effect.

Depression | OCD-UK (ocduk.org)

The Link Between OCD and Major Depressive Disorder (verywellmind.com)

Renata’s Online Journal Health Update.

I will talk about 5 things relating to me and how they are impacting my life and what I am doing in terms of therapy.

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • OCD
  • Intrusive Thoughts
  • Depression

Stress

I am under a tremendous amount of stress for the following reasons:

  1. I have an ongoing dispute with British Gas and it is currently being investigated by the ombudsman.
  2. I have clients dropping like flies because they no longer can afford to pay for their websites due to the price rises of the cost of living.
  3. I am concerned about the stability of a brand new computer that the manufacturer refused to replace or give a refund for. (I am tired of all the arguing I am having to do).
  4. The uncertainty of what the future holds,

I wrote a letter 15 pages long to my GP (Doctor) after I received a letter to make an appointment for my annual medication review, but they could not send me a letter when I wrote to them (9 pages long) in May 2021. I sent both letters via email and both letters were acknowledged and put on the system with a response that a clinician will contact me…I am still waiting for a reply to my letter.

There is a clue in the 4 points I mentioned that can narrow down to the underlying root of how I am feeling, albeit I am also suffering from the aftermath of the domestic violence I endured on top of the daily stresses.

Anxiety

SYMPTOMS OF ANXIETY 

Anxiety may present with any of the following symptoms:

  • Nervousness (I do get nervous when I have to do things I am unfamiliar with relating to work or have to start a dispute to the point I actually feel sick).
  • Being overly and constantly worried (I try to keep myself busy so that I do not have to think too much about my problems).
  • Restlessness (I cannot sit and do nothing, I have to do something, I cannot do idle chitter chatter, I think sitting at a table talking nonsense whilst socializing is a waste of time, I would much rather learn something or turn the wheel to generate business than attend social gatherings -although I cannot at the moment because of my social disconnection issues).
  • Feeling a lump in your throat (If I recall experiencing fear or being in fight or flight mode I have experienced an uncomfortable feeling of finding it hard to swallow).
  • Difficulty concentrating (I have noticed that I cannot concentrate on reading books, it’s as if my mind wanders).
  • Fatigue (I am tired usually when I wake from the interrupted sleeping pattern and a combination of taking my med, so I counteract this by drinking energy drinks that are high in caffeine).
  • Irritability (I am only irritable if things do not go my way).
  • Impatience (I have a short fuse, I do not have patience and I can be rude at times although I usually do apologize I get irritable of people play me to be a fool. people should be careful to insult my intelligence).
  • Muscle tension (Not that I have noticed other than back pain or electricity shooting in the back of my neck but that could be related to Epidural Analgesia).
  • Insomnia (I take medication to send me to sleep otherwise my mind would be racing all night long and I would not be able to sleep).
  • Excessive sweating (Not that I have noticed personally)
  • Shortness of breath (If I have a panic attack, if I am extremely anxious, or if something has really upset me to the point I am becoming a nervous wreck I have been known to have a shortness of breath especially if I have been in a fight or flight mode due to domestic violence).
  • Stomachache (My mother suffered from stomach problems I always thought she was intolerant to certain foods but as I reflect my stomach is normally fine).
  • Diarrhea (Energy drinks do that but the way I relate to this it helps to flush all the toxins out and helps with weight gain).
  • Headache (If I get really stressed my head will thump).
  • Appetite changes (I have not noticed an increase or decrease in appetite but sometimes crave chocolate, but don’t we all).

OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental health disorder that causes distress to the sufferer, it may be a recurrent pattern of unwanted thoughts (obsessions) such as germ contamination that lead to repetitive behaviors (compulsions) such as to disinfect and quarantine. Obsessive thoughts are uncontrollable fears, ideas, sensations, or impulses that trigger extreme distress.

Because I am stressed my OCD is more visible. I may have to change my clothes multiple times in the day if I think I have brushed past something by accident. I am unstable in keeping my balance (cerebellar atrophy).

I go through about 500 pairs of disposable gloves a day and find it hard to touch things with my bare hand without disinfecting them straight after with Dettol. It has to be Dettol as the other brands I cannot get my head around that they will do the same job even though they claim they do, maybe it is my OCD that makes me think this way.

I have a quarantined area where no one can step foot apart from me, not even my daughter can touch anything that I deemed to be sanitized. I am really sad that I cannot give my daughter a hug, I really wish I could but something stops me. I know it is not her it is me and one day I will be in a better place because in the 30 years I have suffered with OCD I have managed to control it to the point it was not so prominent until I had an onset of traumatic events that caused it to come back again with a vengeance.

I am 100% convinced if I did not have stress, did not endure traumatic events, and if I did not have depression because of the stress and I was in a HAPPY PLACE my OCD would be under control. I would not say it would be 100 % cured because depending on my stress levels it would never be totally eradicated. Some people can deal with stress better than others. Some people, smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol and take recreational or prescribed drugs. I only take prescribed drugs for my OCD and they do not work other than sending me to sleep.

I am always on the lookout for different ways I can control my OCD but I have only found hypnosis and meditation to help with the healing process. I am studying neuroplasticity and how to rewire our brains.

In order for hypnosis to work, it has to be done consistently, you will not be cured in a day, week, or month. This has to be a daily occurrence until you start noticing a change. I have completed my diploma for hypnosis and yes I did hypnotize myself successfully but I need to do it every day and with work commitments and everything else that is going on in my life I am too tired and end up falling asleep. You should do hypnosis just before you do to sleep or when you wake up. Other times you can do it during the day without distractions and religiously around the same time of the day.

Although I can do hypnotherapy I do not practice it and have never tried to do it on anyone else.

Renata Hypnotherapy Diploma
Certificate of Completion.

https://disabledentrepreneur.uk/category/obsessive-compulsive-disorder/

Intrusive Thoughts

I live in rented accommodation and have lived in the same property for 24 years. Although I have had money in the past to buy a property I was never focused and did not understand the consequences of my actions in planning for the future. I lived in the moment and never planned my life ahead.

My intrusive thoughts are:

  1. Will my abuser return to the UK to pay me a visit? (That is part of the reason why I have not left my home because I am scared he may be lurking around.
  2. Will I crash and burn and lose everything? ( I got robbed a few years ago and all my valuables were stolen. I have replaced the majority of things and do not want to lose them again.
  3. Will my daughter’s health deteriorate (she suffers from multiple sclerosis)?
  4. Will my health ever improve?
  5. Will I ever be happy and in a happy place?
  6. Thoughts that cause triggers like the death of Queen II, and although the news is sad and I know a family is grieving, it has however revived memories of my parents and my brother passing which has made me have thoughts such as if our loved ones are watching over us are they disappointed in me or are they happy that I am doing everything I can to turn my life around?

Depression

Symptoms of Depression are:

  • Continuous feelings of low mood and/or sadness (I try to keep myself busy so that I do not have time to dwell too much on all the things that have gone wrong in my life).
  • Feeling hopeless and helpless (Yes I do feel hopeless at times but I always try to find the energy to fight until I reach my goals -yes I have set goals, you have to, you need to have a plan).
  • Having low self-esteem (When I wake it is like one of those movies where the person dies and comes back again and nothing has changed, well it is like that for me, I eat, sleep and repeat and nothing changes).
  • Feeling tearful constantly (I cannot say I am tearful it takes a lot to push my buttons although British Gas (Energy Supplier) did drive me to tears, so I reported them).
  • Feelings of guilt (I feel guilty for squandering my money. Had I been focused and taught how to manage my money I would be in a different place now, but you learn the hard way I have many regrets and if I could turn back time with what I know I would have done things differently knowing what I know now. I feel guilty for being stupid with my finances and the people that I trusted). I also feel guilty for distancing myself and perhaps not contacting people sooner that have now passed away (old people).
  • Feeling irritable (I only get irritable if things do not go my way or if I have to deal with stupid people)
  • Having no motivation or interest in hobbies and interests (I have plenty of things to keep me occupied, the websites that I own and manage for my clients keep me busy, never mind my content writing. I am motivated because I have gotten this far so I am not going to give up even though when I wake it takes me a minute or two to tell myself that today may be the day that things change for the better, so I carry on).
  • Being indecisive (I sometimes procrastinate over things such as whether should I start a certain project or not, or if can it wait and I end up putting it off again and again).
  • No real enjoyment in life (I live on the internet my physical self is just a vessel that keeps me going. I do not think of my life in the physical sense I have socially disconnected from the outside world other than for the couriers and workmen that come to the property and I am happy this way. Would I do things differently if I did not have OCD or feared ever crossing paths with the people that caused me harm, I don’t think so. I am happy in my own company)
  • Feeling anxious and/or worried (My mother was a worrier and I must take after her, she also had undiagnosed OCD. Yes my intrusive thoughts do sometimes get in the way, hence I keep myself busy so that I do not have time to think).
  • Thoughts of harming yourself or suicidal feelings (This is furthest from my mind. I was at my lowest and for a millisecond it did cross my mind when I endured all the physical and mental abuse from my abuser but I told myself if I quit he would win so I turned my thoughts around to show him that everything he said was wrong and that I would be successful and he would live to regret treating me the way he did).
  • Loss of appetite – although sometimes can see an increase in appetite (I see food as energy when I am hungry I will eat, I do not watch my calories and try to eat healthy most of the time, I have no problem with my appetite, in fact, I should really lose a bit of weight considering I do not exercise because (a) I do not venture out (b) My knee pain would be too excruciating to walk very far).
  • A general lack of energy (Because of my medication, I feel so tired when I wake so I counteract that by drinking energy drinks that are high in caffeine which causes a domino effect and causes me to have an overactive bladder)
  • Low sex drive.
  • Trouble sleeping (I do have trouble sleeping but that is alleviated with the prescribed medication, however with the interruptions to my sleep because of my overactive bladder I find when I wake I am very tired so have to drink energy drinks to keep me awake).
  • Avoiding social interaction (I have social disconnection issues and I prefer my own company)
  • Difficulty maintaining family relationships (I do not have any close relatives living in the UK other than my daughter and we have a close bond, my brother and all his children live in the USA, I guess it must be very hard for their mother who lives in the UK).

Further Reading:

My Dreams, Aspirations & Goals

My dreams, aspirations, and goals are one day to be in a happy place living a happy life, be financially free and most of all not suffering from OCD, Stress, Anxiety, or Depression. I want to one day when I retire travel the world and photograph everything I see. I want to one day be able to document my journey and leave a legacy.

I want to motivate and inspire people so that they can be led on the right path.

I will continue to do what I am doing because I sense where I am supposed to be, is the right place to be. By continuing writing and researching I not only help myself I also help others. This online journal is my therapy because it gives me a platform to voice my knowledge, thought and opinions.

My dreams are to reach my goals.

#stress #anxiety #intrusivethoughts #ocd #obsessivecompulsivedisorder #depression